This week I got some unexpected news. I won’t say what they were about but I just wanted to provide some insight and advice on how to deal with them.
I am definitely not an expert but throughout my life, I have learnt a few techniques to deal with them.
Most of the time unexpected news is about things in which you don’t have any power upon. If we did, then I think they would be considered ‘expected news’ instead. Our actions have consequences and if we were responsible for those actions then I suppose you would know the outcome.
Unexpected news can be good or bad but as you can presume I won’t be here telling you how to react to the good news.
First of all, know that you will be okay. I’ll even go as far as being cliché when I say that better days are coming because they are always around the corner.
It’s not the end of the world so try not to think about it that way.
It’s all about adaptability.
The news is out. That’s it. There’s nothing more you can change except what you are going to do next and deal with it.
It may seem raw but it’s how I see it. Adapt. Overcome.
When I was little I used to dwell a lot. I am an overthinker by nature so you can bet I was looking at it with every angle. I also would get very hurt by it.
Dwelling doesn’t get you anywhere.
I saw this as a weakness of mine and decided to change gradually. Now, when I get bad news I don’t really give it much thought except to know what I can learn from it and move on.
We all screw up. Life also screws us. A lot of people screw us.
But also… you can move on. Life gets better. There are people that care for you and can help.
It’s not a one-sided coin. Nothing is a one-sided coin. It’s all a matter of perspective.
Build mindmaps. They help.