I’ve always had a rough time with having individual initiative, saying no to every opportunity that I didn’t find a friend to share with. Truth is, it doesn’t have to be like this.
I don’t have a lot of friends and not everyone likes the same I do or wants to go to the same events and that’s okay. However, this meant that I wouldn’t take a lot of opportunities because I didn’t want to go alone.
Last year I decided to change that and take every opportunity I could. I wanted to see what I could learn from it and if it would be worth it in the end. What am I missing?
So, I started going shopping alone and even went to a networking event in London by myself (something I thought to be impossible). Going from store to store by myself was incredible, I felt free and ended up really appreciated my own company. I still have to work on it, as I only go alone if I already am in town and still need someone to go with me if not there. Baby steps, I’ll get there.
As for the networking event, I was supposed to go with a colleague that cancelled 2 weeks before and when I found someone else to go with me it was already too late. Everything happens for a reason and I think this was life’s way to tell me that I needed to do this by myself. The event was in London ( and I was so scared), decided to go 3 hours in advance so I could explore and calm myself. Since it was near Oxford street I went shopping and then went on to the event. It ended up being so educational and I’m so glad I went for it and I even got some Harry Potter goodies from Primark!
I also went to a Christmas party last year, my first one. Nicole 2017 said no but 2018 was a new year and I just figured that if I wasn’t liking it I could just leave and that I had nothing to lose. It was nice to see everyone and I felt good with myself as if this was a milestone I didn’t know I had to cross.
What I learnt from these experiences:
- You have nothing to lose if you say yes, but you might miss something if you say no.
- However, don’t be afraid to say no, if you don’t feel comfortable it’s okay you don’t need to feel pressured.
- I really enjoy my own company. In a weird way I think I’m really funny and enjoy spending time with myself.
- You are prepared to do it. You just have to go for it.